Married is the icing on the cake for any relationship. It is when both partners enter into a binding contract between each other, their companionship becomes legally recognized by the state and there are certain repercussions which are associated with marriage. For this reason it is important to truly get to know your boyfriend before tying the knot. The best way to know more about him is to move in with him.
It is absolutely shocking to learn exactly how much a person can manage to hide from their better half when they're not living together. And upon learning some of his secret habits you might soon change your opinion of him.
It is better to understand if you are truly compatible than to suffer a long, drawn out and expensive divorce. If it doesn't pan out between you two just move out and cal it quits. That isn't to say the same about marriages.
Moving in with your boyfriend will allow you to deeply reflect if marriage is exactly what you want. It will allow you to see things from a different perspective. You will be able to see them from an entirely new lens.
Once you begin to live together, you will soon realize that living together has both its ups and downs. And you might not like the downs too much. Living together is not all fun and games at all.
Most of the time both partners will have to contribute equally to the rent, bells and other items such as food and grocery shopping. While it is easier to split the bill, it isn't always convenient because you will have to put up with their demands.
The two of you will share responsibilities. You will be handling those chores which you display a higher skill towards. In your case he might expect you to do all the cooking and cleaning - perhaps at the cost of you day job.
The two of you will be able to test each other's boundaries and see what truly gets under your partner's skin. IF you don't like him for who he is, you can always opt out and not choose to marry him.
Because the both of you are in close proximity, it is that much easier to have intimate encounters. You can explore each other on a more personal level than ever before, this can include all the nasty fetishes he may have in mind.
Because the two of you are living under the same roof and know the extent of each other's financial capabilities, you will begin to act as a team and cooperate with each other as a single, cohesive unit.
As human beings we tend to take it very seriously what the outside world thinks about our status as a couple. If our own friends are unable to perceive us as a real couple that reflects on our overall outlook. Living together changes that.
Living together means the two of you have trusted each other's company and have completely committed to each other on a personal level. It is not easy to find someone compatible enough for you to actually live under the same roof.
Because you're living with him, it becomes easier to understand where his real strengths lie. You can find out if his strengths complement your weaknesses and allow you to grow as a person. It doesn't help if both of you have the same weaknesses.
It is equally important to learn each other's weaknesses as well. Are those weaknesses bad enough to reflect poorly on your long term relationship goal? Can your strengths make up for his weaknesses? It is important to learn this before properly getting hitched.
You will get to know if he is serious enough about your relationship. So even if the two of you aren't planning on tying the knot, it can definitely help to know if he isn't planning on cheating on you somewhere down the line.
Every new person we bring into our lives has their own baggage to carry. We have to analyze if the baggage they carry can weigh us both down. If their baggage can get in the way of our relationship, it might not be a good idea to get married.