Every song, and movie and story in our current culture always seems to revolve around love. Everyone is constantly striving to be in a relationship. Sometimes it feels that if we aren't in one that we can't be happy. For some people, a relationship is the ultimate goal. For others, relationships are kind of an afterthought. While career, or travel or certain passions take the forefront of a persons life. Don't feel like you are missing out if you are in a relationship. Here are some things all of us single people can relate to, not being in a relationship.
When you don't always have to worry about what other people think about you, like your significant other, you only have to rely on yourself to give you high self confidence. If you don't have the constant judgement of someone else's opinions in your ear, you are free to be your own fabulous.
If you want to book a trip for New Years to an island off of Mexico for two weeks, you can do it. If you want to go out with some friends for a night on the town, go ahead. When you are single you are the ultimate independent person, and that is pure freedom.
To someone who is perpetually in a relationship, it may be the most fear-inducing joke to have someone tell you that you are going to die alone. But when you are the type of person who is single and happy to be alone, those jokes don't bother you at all, because you don't care.
Because you are the type of person who isn't always tied at the hip with a significant other, you learn to be outgoing and be able to talk to all kinds of people in groups. This is a good skill to have because it increases your self confidence and makes you the life of the party.
If you aren't someone who is always in relationships than you don't have any of your own relationship drama. This allows you to be a good counselor to your friends who are in relationships as an outsider perspective. Allowing you to help them have a clear mind about it all.
Being a single independent person, you don't really understand the concept of a long term relationship because you don't think you want to have any type of codependent person in your life. Having to care for the needs of someone on a daily basis doesn't seem like it will fit into your single life.
Your life is not all Netflix and take-out, like most of your friends that are in a long term relationship. You have all the best stories from all of your single person adventures. Dating a sex gossip? You have it. Jetting off to foreign countries on a whim? Check that off the list.
For some reason, in our culture, it is assumed that if you are not in a long term relationship that there is something wrong with you or that you are unhappy. But most single people will tell you that they are just fine on their own and they constantly tell other to mind their own business.
If you have never been the type to get into long term relationships, then you will never be the type to carry around a whole bunch of past relationship baggage. You won't have to worry about running into exes at the super market or waking up to a drunken ex text.
It is not that people who choose to be single rather than be in constant long term relationships want to be single forever. They just don't want to put up with weeding through the bad ones to get to the good stuff. They know the wait will be worth it in the end when they find their soulmate.
Because you choose to be single, you don't have the constant reassurance and companionship that a relationship will provide. With this, you have to find your support from other places which is why a single person knows how important good friendships are and will maintain them
Some couple have a fear of doing something without each other, or do not feel like they can make a decision or work through a hard time on their own. A single person knows how important it is to have self dependence and can get through life on their own just fine.
When you are a single person without any baggage or responsibilities weighing you down, you are a total free agent. You can do something crazy like pick up and move across the world, or spend a year traveling from place to place exploring and developing personal growth.
Holidays can be pressure enough just for the average person. But someone in a long term relationship will tell you that being in a couple over any holiday adds another level of stress and expectation to an already stressful time. When you only have to take care of yourself you can relax on most holidays without worry.
Being in a relationship requires two people to share not only their emotional and personal selves with each other, but also their space. When you are single, you make your space your own and it can be your little sanctuary to relax and reboot in without worry about anyone else.
