It's not so many years ago that society expected him to go to work and you to stay at home to raise the children. Thankfully, we've moved on from that, and you're every bit as capable of going out and earning the big bucks as he is. A real man should respect you for wanting to pay your own way in the world. But it's what you do with it that counts.
If you have goals and dreams as a couple, they're probably going to cost money. Your dream wedding isn't going to come cheap, for a start! Houses and cars and holidays can all be major investments that need contributions from both of you; so don't spend money frivolously. Double check that you really need something before you go out and spend big. Clubs and parties were great ways to blow cash when you were single, but should you be spending as much on them right now? If you're sensible with what you spend, you can achieve your financial goals faster. Oh, and expect the same from him, too.