Men especially beat themselves up over things because society tells us that we should be infallible, and need to take care of everything. Unfortunately many men deal with regret in a toxic way. Look at the men of the #metoo movement. They don't even get past step one. "What did I do wrong?" Harvey Weinstein is like, "Ok, so I masturbating in a bush because a woman wouldn't sleep with me... what did I do wrong?... nothing. It's her fault."
It's amazing how simple these four steps are, yet how most people won't take the time to properly go through them. Just getting past step one in an honest way is difficult for most. It's a natural reflex to tell ourselves that we didn't do anything wrong. Truth is, you may have. The good news is, you can make it right.