More than anything, women sometimes just want a man who is happy to take out the trash without being asked. It's not so much the act itself (we know we could get it done in five minutes ourselves) but a willingness to help when it's needed that women are attracted to. This isn't limited to garbage duty - being aware of little tasks around the house and being happy to help get them done is one of the gold-star qualities women look for in a man.
If you sense that your partner is a bit grumpy with how lazy you are at home, start changing your attitude right now. It's not fair to expect her to do all the work. It's also not fair to expect her to tell you what to do. You are both grown-ups and she is not your mother.