Sometimes it is hard to identify what the problem is in a relationship. You both work so hard to make things right between you two, but often, love just isn't enough. So you fight and you try and figure things out, but it just doesn't always work. Then there are relationships where they work hard to identify the problem and find success. But if you continuously find yourself in relationships that seem to end and you aren't sure why, but things just didn't go your way. You might want to check yourself, because you could be the one who is sabotaging the relationship.
You Hold Grudges
It is important in relationships, of every kind, to learn how to let things go. If you continue to hold grudges with things that have happened and were discussed, your partner is not going to feel like they are supported or cared about. Let things go, it is the only way to move on.
You're Being Too Needy
Loving to spend time with someone is one thing, needing them to be around you all the time in order for you to be happy is another. Neediness is not an attractive quality. The best kind of relationships occur when both people have a sense of independence.
You Prioritize Poorly
While it is important to have a life that is your own while also being in a relationship. You also need to make sure you are prioritizing your life to make sure that the other person feels the love and affection that they deserve. Make your life your own, but make them a priority.
If you tend to be the type of person who always thinks that the worst is going to happen. Make sure that does not follow you into your relationships. If you constantly think that you partner is cheating or lying to you without any sort of proof, your relationship is destined to end.
You're Trying Too Hard
The best kind of advice for any sort of life and relationship type of situation is to "be yourself." If you try too hard and try to be someone that your not, but that maybe you think the other person wants you to be, you fake identity will show through.
You Take Things Too Personally
Life is not all sunshine and daisies. Sometimes the world has some harsh truths to it. But that doesn't mean that you are a bad person, it just means you need to face reality. And that happens a lot in relationships, which are partnerships.
It feels so tempting but it is so bad to do. It violates all types of trust and is extremely hurtful. If you feel the desire to snoop, be an adult and talk to your partner about what is bothering you. Maybe it is just your own insecurities that are causing you to stress out.
Obsessed With Social Media
When you spend most of your time going over your partner's social media. Analyzing every little thing. And constantly picking out things from the past. You do not build a good foundation of trust and love for your partner. Live in the reality of your relationship, not social media.
You're Still Using Dating Sites
Some people like to keep their dating profiles, even when they have found someone and they have begun a relationship. Many people say that its just fun "to look" but it is almost like you are always on the look for something new. Which is upsetting to the other person.
You Pick Fights
There are some people who just love to argue and fight. It can sometimes give a relationship a false sense of passion and intimacy. And arguing is necessary for growth. But picking unnecessary fights will always lead to the other person wanting out.
You Overthink Everything
This is a bad habit that people tend to bring into their lives. Overthinking every little aspect of your life can cause you to go into spiral-like behavior that can be detrimental to your wellbeing and the wellness of you relationship, let yourself go with the flow.
You Don't Make An Effort With Their Family
Family, whether it is the family you are born with, or the family you choose; is everything. When you are in a relationship, it is extremely important for you to make an effort to get to know the other persons family, because it is a vital part of who they are.
You Tell Little Lies
They might be the most harmless lies in the world. But a lie is a lie, no matter if it is covering up something big, or if it is just a little white lie. Be an honest person, be honest with your partner, your friends and family and most importantly, yourself.
You Search For Flaws
Everyone is flawed. We as a species are not perfect, it is what makes us human. When you fall in love with someone, you tend to go through a honeymoon phase where the other person can do no wrong. But don't go searching for flaws, let yourself love the other person for everything they are, good and bad.
You Focus On The Negatives
Relationships are not always easy and they will never be perfect. But if you continue to focus on the negatives in the relationship, instead of appreciating all of the positives, you will find that you are always disappointed and you expectations will never be met.
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