When you are starting out in a new relationship, or you are just getting back into the field of dating, it is important to be yourself as much as possible. Don't be self conscious about what a guy is going to think of you and definitely don't try too hard. If you find yourself looking in the mirror and thinking, "what am I doing wrong, something feels off and I feel like I am repelling guys," then you need to take a step back and check to see if maybe you are putting up a front for these men. Guys will see right through being fake, so be your genuine self and watch out for these things that tend to push me away.
Putting On Too Much Makeup
You are gorgeous just exactly as you are natural with no extra help from the Sephora counter. Put on makeup if you want to do it for yourself, but a guy will appreciate the less is more kind of mentality in this situation. Let your true beauty shine through!
Poor Personal Hygiene
We live in a busy world where we are running around from one thing to the other, but ladies, it is important to keep up your personal hygiene. Not only to make sure your keep your lovely flower nice and healthy but also the more your take care of yourself the more someone will want to come in and take care of you.
An Arrogant Attitude
Some women have a defense mechanism that whenever they are nervous or feel insecure they cover it up by being overly confident and sometimes arrogant. Make sure that you keep your humble self in check, because arrogance doesn't look good on anybody.
Don't Shy Away From Conversations
Don't be discouraged or too nervous that you are afraid to engage in conversations. Men don't always want to be leading every single topic or feel like talking to you is similar to pulling teeth. Be bold and let yourself get lost in talking to him about whatever comes to mind.
Criticizing Your Ex
We all have baggage, and we have all been through some shit. But keep the past in the past and don't drag your ex into conversations with your new guy. He wants to engage with someone fun and positive and you will push him away if you are just trying to find a way to complain about your past.
Don't Surround Yourself In Drama
Women who are constantly surrounding themselves in drama are women who are extremely insecure about their own lives. A man will spot that erg flag and run away screaming if you are the type of person to constantly engage in other peoples drama or unnecessarily make it for yourself.
You may think that you are demanding to be treated with respect, but there is a line where you become and entitled and a princess when you demand unnecessarily from a guy. Let the balance and give and take go back and forth between the two of you and put your pride aside.
Not Listening To Anyone
Men may not talk much, but when they do and they want to get to know you, listen to what they have to say. And not just hear it, internalize it and pay attention to them. The world doesn't revolve around you, so put your phone down and make him feel heard.
A Short Fuse
If you are the type of personality that has a short fuse and a hot temper, try and practice some things that will help you from blowing up unnecessarily. Patience and compassion are key in the start of any new relationship and it will help you in all facets of your life if you can learn to control your atitude.
Cynical Of Everything
You don't have to be a bubbly woman who agrees with every little thing a man says, but don't be over cynical or everything either. It gets tiring to listen to someone who has a negative view point of everything in the world and it doesn't show promise that a relationship with you would be any fun.
You Have No Passions
Sometimes we find ourselves in a rut, and thats ok. And often times we get caught up in the work/life grind and have to remember to stop and smell the roses a bit. But nothing is more unattractive than a girl without any passions in her life, even a small hobby is sexy to a guy.
You're A Gossip
Gossiping about anyone is a bad habit, but men especially don't want to hear your petty gossip about your friends, it shows him that you aren't trustworthy and can't keep a secret and that you value putting others down over their self worth which is a totally turn off.
You Don't Take Care Of Yourself
Maybe you aren't the athletic type, or maybe you have never liked the taste of most vegetables, but that is not an excuse to lay around all day on your couch eating fast food. Men want women who take care of their health and vitality because those women will have long happy lives.
Not Showing Kindness To Strangers
The whole world needs a little extra love and kindness right now, so use your better judgement and be compassionate to the people around you. Say thank you, hold doors, have a positive disposition, even when you are having a shitty day. Being positive is infectious and makes the world better.
Not Staying True To Yourself
Stop over thinking so much who you think you should be or how you should act. if you disagree with a guy, say something. If you agree, say something. If you want to smile and sing and laugh, let it out. Embrace what is unique to you and show it to the world, any guy will find that the sexiest thing of all.
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