Alright, fellas, we know a lot of you might not have the best luck when it comes to the dating scene, effectively communicating with women, or even approaching women at all but, if you've finally mustered up the courage to ask that girl you've had a crush on for months now and she agreed to go on a date with you and now you're stuck in a whirlwind of thoughts and don't know what to do, we got your back. You might be clueless when it comes to the realm of dating but, we've compiled a few obvious tips for you to hopefully succeed and get a second date. With that being said, check out these dating tips right now.
Be Your Best Self
Unfortunately, pretending to be some hot shot isn't working out for some of you and hell, even just being yourself isn't working out either so, we recommend that you be yourself. Anything in regards to self that you have a problem with work towards fixing. Don't like your gut, hit the gym, don't consider yourself an intellectual, pick up a book. Be your best self.
First and foremost, you will never be able to enter the dating realm if you never learn how to approach the women you want to pursue. If you're scared frozen just try talking to five random women a day, no matter who they are the cashier at the grocery store, an old lady at the bus stop, whoever, and either compliment them or ask them how their day is going. Over time you'll build up enough confidence to actually approach the girl you've been crushing on and ask her out.
If She Says No...
You might be stuck on what her response might be and if she says no and if she does... You'll live, trust us. Honestly, the world won't end everything won't go black and nothing will be on fire. There are so many women in the world and so much opportunity to find the one for you that rejection should let you know that she wasn't right for you to begin with. Plus, after the first no, it becomes a lot easier and you'll end up asking so many women out on dates, getting yeses and nos you'll probably end up double booking them anyway and having to reject them.
Don't Be The Nice Guy
Before you think you're trying to tell to you to be an a**hole or the jerk to get the girl guess again. What we're saying is don't force yourself to be the nice guy type. It's unattractive, disingenuous, and won't get you far on a date. Genuine niceness should come naturally and will blossom progressively through your actions towards her, drawing her in.
Be Prepared Financially
Once again, don't jump to conclusions here, we're not telling to spend two-weeks salary on a single date night but, be prepared to foot the bill wherever you choose to take her. Also, don't feel obligated to go anywhere where you have to spend a lot of money. Most of the time, the best dates are somewhere quiet and/or free. Simply going to the beach, going out for ice cream or coffee or even a museum won't break the bank but, do be prepared to pay.
Don't Wait 3 Days To Text Her
Let's say you got that one girl's number that you've been crushing on for however long now and you're thinking about applying the three-day texting rule... Just don't. In today's society, people are so much of a hurry and women, especially attractive women, have men hitting them up constantly trying to take them out that the three-day rule doesn't apply and never did to begin with so, text her sooner or whenever is convenient for you.
Avoid The First Date Movie
The movie date is one of the last ideas you should have for a first date. It literally sets you up for failure, you sit next to the person you're trying to attract with that stupid cup holder barricade in between the two of you, there's no communication, it's dark, and at the end of the movie you still don't know anything about each other or whether or not you're compatible or not. You have to be more creative, if you can force as much physical activity into the date, think horseback riding, zoos, or ziplining, anything that will force a reaction out of her.
Dress To Impress
We're not telling you to pull up on your date in a three-piece suit like this guy but, you should really put some effort into your presentation. Your hygiene should be on point that's a must, clothing shouldn't be wrinkled, and your attire shouldn't stop you from entering the most basic diner to an upscale cocktail lounge. We'd think you should know this by now but let this be a healthy reminder.
If you think because we mentioned not to be a fake nice guy while out on a date being the total opposite isn't gonna work out for you either bud. Once again, we have to mention sincerity when it comes to your dating life. You can still be charming, dominant, and funny without being a d*ck. Like we mentioned before be your best self and a generally good guy. Also, a**holes tend not to do as well with women as you think.
'Don't Tell Her You Like Her' Not
Dude, this isn't middle school anymore and those cheesy grade school methods of getting the girl are out of the window. If you think not telling her you like her will get this person to beg for your attention you got another thing coming. First of all, it's obvious that you do like her because you're on a date with her and secondly, if you express that you do vocally it gives off aspects of confidence and vulnerability from your personality that she'll have to respect.
Even if you have a lot of things going for you in regards to your career, how much money you have in the bank, and what kind of car you drive, all you're talking about is possessions and those things don't really make you who you are and aren't important at the end of the day. If you choose to go with this method while conversing on a first date, she'll most likely think you're trying to compensate for your small d*ck. No lie.
Kissing Her After The Date
You've definitely seen one too many movies if you think you're supposed to receive or kiss your date after you take her out. There's no guarantee that any type of physical interaction between you will happen but, if the energy is right and the body language has led you to that moment, trust your heart to make the right decision.
Don't Message Her A Lot
Either before or after the date, try to avoid messaging her too much it comes off as clingy and she's already agreed to either go or has gone on the date with you so, she's already shown interest in you. Plus, let the mystery build for a second and the experience of you settle in her mind as well. No need to 'keep the flame burning', fires burn slower and longer when you let them breathe.
For some reason, we've all been taught that men must make the first move when it comes courting but, women should make the first move when it comes to wanting to have sex after a date or not and we'd like to call bullsh*t. If we leave it up to the ladies, even if they want to, they'll most likely be passive towards the act because they don't want to be shamed so, make that first move IF the energy is right and headed into that direction.
Lastly... Please, Don't.
Fellas, please... Seriously, please if that special someone allows you to go on a couple dates with them and you eventually sleep with them don't think you can intentionally try and get her pregnant in order to trap her. This plan will backfire and you will end up getting punched in the face for not using protection. Be smart and stay safe out there.
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